So your boyfriend cheated on you.
You’re hurt and feel betrayed.
You want to cuss him out and whatever.
All those feelings are normal.
But here’s what not to do.
When I found out my ex had another girlfriend, I was mad.
It was even more painful because that person was there (unknowing to me) before we started dating.
So I wondered why he came to me when he had her.
Anyway, I ended the relationship the same weekend I found out.
Then I went to my job the next day.
Though it was hard, I moved on with my life.
This post will discuss what you should not do if your boyfriend cheats on you.
So your boyfriend cheated on you, here’s what you should not do:
1. Don’t blame yourself when your boyfriend cheats on you
Most of us keep asking ourselves what we did wrong.
You begin to blame yourself.
Please don’t feel like something is wrong with you; that’s why they cheated.
They cheated on you; they should carry the burden.
You were into the relationship.
And your boyfriend chose to cheat on you.
So don’t put his burden on you.
2. Your boyfriend cheated on you, don’t engage in messages insulting them
Remember I said you’d want to cuss them out. You can do that when you first realize they cheated.
After the initial conversation, and maybe a fight, end the talk there.
Please don’t waste your time texting and raining insults on them.
You’re giving them too much attention.
And you’re giving them room to live in your head rent-free.
Girl, you don’t need that.
Also, you don’t need to change into a crazy person because of them.
So please don’t text them.
3. Your boyfriend cheated on you, don’t try to get a revenge
Another thing you must not do because your boyfriend cheated on you is seeking revenge.
In the heat of the moment, you want to hurt them back. Please don’t do it.
Don’t let their actions drive you crazy.
I know it is easy to say.
But you can do it.
Trying to ruin their image by making up things that are not true will make you look like a crazy person.
And you can lose yourself in the process.
4. Don’t start another relationship to make them jealous
When your boyfriend cheats on you, please don’t enter a new relationship to make them jealous.
You’d only be hurting yourself more.
And the reason could be that you’re in a new relationship with someone you don’t like.
It is a waste of time.
Also, you’d be dragging a new person – perhaps a good one – into that mess.
You’d never move on if you did everything with a plan to make them jealous.
You’d keep dwelling on the hurt and thinking about them every day.
5. Don’t hold any grudge against them
Holding a grudge is similar to wanting to insult them, given a chance.
But you don’t need that.
Yes, you are upset but don’t stay mad forever.
Holding a grudge against them makes it hard to move on.
And if you haven’t forgiven them, you’d stay angry. And chase potential partners away.
So try to forgive, heal, and move on one day at a time.
6. Don’t get into a relationship with the same kind of person
We are usually attracted to the same type of people most of the time.
We want the same guy everyone wants.
The one with so many options and most likely exercises them. So think about it.
7. Don’t think you’re an exception
As I started dating early in my life, I learned that “you cannot change anyone.”
Unless they decide to change because they don’t want to lose you.
So don’t think a guy who cheats on all his girlfriends would not cheat on you.
You see and know he cheats.
Leave him alone.
You’re not an exception to what he does and can do.
8. Don’t lose your self-worth because your boyfriend cheated on you
Your boyfriend cheated on you? Don’t lose your self-worth.
Don’t call them crying and begging that you can’t live without them.
At first, they might talk to you and try to help you feel better.
But after a while, you’d look like a pest to them.
They’d ignore your calls or drop them when they hear your voice.
Some people may even do worse. Who knows?
Girl, you don’t want that.
So put yourself together and know that you’re worth something.
9. Don’t compete with the other lady for his attention
Lastly, if you find out your boyfriend is dating someone else, don’t compete.
I’m saying this because someone advised me to stay and fight for my ex.
She was like, “continue dating him. Do your thing, don’t worry about the other lady. Eventually, he would choose you.”
I said NO!
If he doesn’t know where he wants to be, I’m not the one to show him.
You must not stay and watch him go back and forth with you and the other lady.
It is unhealthy for you.
If he wanted to be with you, he would not search for someone else.
Your boyfriend cheated on you – Here’s what to do
Your boyfriend cheated on you? Cry your heart out
Crying helps a lot.
It relieves the burden on your heart and cleanses your eyes (wink).
And it is a great way to deal with the hurt.
Don’t bottle up the pain. It’s not good for you.
Take time off dating to heal your heart.
It would help if you took time off to heal from the heartache before going into another relationship.
Healing would help you start something new with a clear head.
It is hard, but please forgive them.
Forgiving them is the best you can do for yourself.
Just like crying, forgiveness takes off the load.
And maybe when you think of them, you can smile and keep going.
Talk to your friends; they can be of great help.
Talking to your friends after a breakup can help you a lot.
You need someone to comfort you.
Even if you don’t want to talk, they can stay quiet or cry with you.
A friend of mine cried with me during one of my breakups.
We cried so much in the car that some guy stopped to ask if we were okay. LMAO!
I’ll never forget that.
Remember, your ex did this, not a new potential lover
Don’t move on with life, saying all men are crap because of your previous experience.
You can lose a good guy with that attitude.
Lastly, don’t stay friends
Your boyfriend cheated on you; the last thing you want is to be friends.
Also, why did he cheat on you if the friendship was that important?
You don’t go screwing your friends over.
Another thing you must remember is that friendships with exes make it hard to recover from the heartbreak.
Also, you’d likely end up in bed with your ex if you remain friends.
So keep them far.
Let’s Wrap This Up
So your boyfriend cheated on you, remember what you shouldn’t do.
Don’t think you’re worthless and nobody will love you.
Instead, look at yourself and know you’re worthy of a good person.
You’re also a great person.
Open your heart and give someone else a chance when you are ready.
In the end, you’d be okay.
I hope you find these tips helpful.
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