It hurts when your boyfriend says he doesn’t know what the future holds for you.
Especially if you’ve been dating for a while.
So what does it mean?
And what can you do?
This post will discuss what it means when he says he doesn’t see a future with you anymore.
What does it mean when your boyfriend says he doesn’t see a future with you anymore
You might wonder, “why doesn’t he see a future with me?”.
Here are possible reasons why:
1. He’s not ready to commit
Some guys get into relationships when they’re not ready to commit.
So it’s possible your guy isn’t ready to commit that’s why he said he doesn’t see a future with you anymore.
Maybe he wants to focus more on his career.
And he wants to achieve specific goals before committing to a relationship.
I had an ex like that.
He said he must build a house and have XYZ before committing to any serious relationship.
Whatever it is, he is not ready to commit.
2. He’s scared of commitment
What does it mean when a guy says he doesn’t know what the future holds for you?
It means he’s scared to commit.
Some guys are afraid of commitment.
So even when they like you and think you’re the girl of their dreams, they’d still let you go.
Maybe your boyfriend has heard stories or even witnessed failed relationships.
And he’s worried the same would happen to him when he commits to you or any woman.
And even if he’s seen successful relationships, the bad stories stick.
Because we remember our bad experiences more than the good ones.
Or your guy isn’t willing to compromise to make a relationship work.
So the fear of failing makes him avoid commitment.
You know, some people think happy couples never argue.
So when they have issues, they’d believe the relationship will fail.
3. He doesn’t know what he wants
A guy might say he doesn’t know what the future holds for you because he doesn’t know what he wants.
Yup! There are adults out there that don’t know what they want.
So even when they like you, they still doubt it.
They need someone else to tell them they should be with you.
Which is just sad.
Some of these people end up dating or marrying someone a friend or relative chose for them.
Because they don’t know what’s good for them.
4. It’s a chance for you to leave and find someone better
When a guy says he doesn’t see you in his future anymore, it’s a chance for you to go.
Maybe he’s strung you along, and you only realized it now.
I know it’s not a great place to be.
But it would be best if you were out of that relationship instead of staying with a deceitful guy.
I’m so sorry, girl.
Please read How To Know When A Guy Is Leading You On – 17 Signs.
5. He’s dating someone else
Your guy is probably dating someone else is why he doesn’t see a future with you.
He’s looking at and planning a future with someone else.
For some guys, once another girl starts giving them attention, they start thinking she’s better than their current girlfriend.
Whatever he’s doing with another girl shouldn’t bother you.
What am I saying?
It would hurt.
But he will soon realize the grass isn’t greener on the other side.
And if the grass is greener there for some reason, that’s fine.
Maybe you guys weren’t meant to be together.
You’ll find someone good for you.
6. He’s not really into you
Another reason he doesn’t see his future with you is because he’s not really into you.
So it’s possible he likes you but not enough to plan a future with.
Sometimes we think we’re compatible with someone, but we’re not.
And it’s okay.
7. He thinks you’re not good enough
I’ve always said that when someone says you’re not good enough for them, they’re not good enough for you.
Stop trying to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you.
So don’t ever feel bad because someone thinks you’re not good enough for them.
Instead, please take it as a chance to find someone who thinks you’re enough for them and vice versa.
And your ex (well, he’s going to be your ex) can go be with the girl he thinks is good enough for him.
8. He hasn’t moved on from his past relationships
Sometimes when someone says they don’t see a future with you, it’s because they still have baggage from past relationships.
It’s likely your guy hasn’t moved on from his last relationship.
Maybe he’s still trying to reach out and connect with an ex.
Maybe they’re already back together.
It could be anything.
9. Someone hurt him in the past.
Your guy might say he doesn’t see a future with you anymore because someone hurt him before.
And maybe he hasn’t recovered from that betrayal.
So he’s afraid you’ll do the same to him.
He has serious trust issues.
And he needs to find a way to deal with his issues.
It is not yours to fix.
So if he wants to let you go, please let him go too.
When he’s fixed his issues, he can go back to dating.
But don’t wait for him.
10. He believes you’ve changed
Maybe you used to respect him.
And he thought you could build something together.
But you changed recently.
And he can’t see a future with someone who doesn’t respect him.
That’s why he said he doesn’t see a future with you anymore.
11. It means he doesn’t see you in his future
You might not want to hear this.
But if a guy says he doesn’t know what the future holds for you, that’s precisely what it means.
He doesn’t see you in his future.
Plain and simple.
And please believe him.
What to do when he says he doesn’t see a future with you anymore
Talk about it
You can ask to talk about it.
But you should know he might not want to talk.
Because some of us are scared of difficult conversations.
When my ex said he didn’t see a future with me, I asked to talk about it.
But he didn’t want to talk as his mind was made up.
So before you end things with him, talk about it.
You can tell him how his decision hurt you.
And maybe add that if he changes his mind, you won’t take him back.
Don’t beg him to change his mind.
The last thing you want to do is beg a guy to change his mind after he says he doesn’t want you.
Don’t let a guy tell you more than once that he doesn’t want you.
I know it’s hard because I’ve been there.
I cried and begged him to change his mind.
But he’s made his decision.
So I got myself together and moved on.
It’s okay to hurt and feel like the worst thing has happened to you.
But please don’t beg him.
Leave with your dignity.
Give him space
Please give him space when he says he doesn’t see a future with you.
Maybe he needs some time to think about his decision.
It’s possible you guys need some time to see if the relationship will work.
But I doubt it.
Because once one person loses interest in a relationship, you might as well be broken up.
So give him space and use the time to accept what’s happened.
And start healing from the heartbreak.
Try to move on
Accept your fate and leave him alone.
Take your time and slowly adjust to that single life.
One day you’ll find someone who gets you.
And you’d be glad your ex let you go.
Please don’t wait for him.
So you’ve ended the relationship with him, hopefully.
Please don’t wait for him to change his mind and come back to you.
Please, you must move on.
He has given you a chance to heal, rethink your choices in men, and possibly find a better man.
Please don’t go back to the same inconsistent guy.
Sometimes couples separate and come back together.
But don’t put your life on hold because of him.
And if he comes back and it works out with you two, fine.
But for now, live your life.
Please don’t have breakup sex with him.
Some guys want to have intimacy one more time before letting you go.
While your emotions are high and you’re vulnerable, he would try to sleep with you.
Try your hardest not to do it.
He can’t have his cake and eat it.
Please don’t stay friends.
Your guy might say he wants to remain friends.
Please don’t stay friends with him.
Some guys want to stay as friends so they can stroll back into your heart when they feel like it.
Which makes it harder for you to move on.
So cut him off so you can move on and heal faster.
You might be friends sometime in the future.
But not right now.
Wrapping it up!
So when your guy says he doesn’t see a future with you, please believe him.
Then leave him alone.
Please don’t beg anyone to be with you out of pity.
You’ll hurt, but you’ll be okay.
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Sending you hugs.
I hope you find this post helpful.
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Thanks for reading.
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