One marriage quote I hate so much is this:
Marriage is not a bed of rosesyour annoying aunt
As accurate as it is, I thought people say it to scare you away from getting married.
Just imagine it coming out of your annoying aunt’s mouth.
Okay, you get the picture.
But after I got married, I understood that marriage takes two people willing to make it work.
You won’t be happy every day. But with time and effort, you can have a healthy marriage.
So in this post, I’d be sharing 27 tips for a happy marriage for young couples.
These tips have helped my husband and I build a healthy relationship for nine years, married for 7.
Let’s dive in.
DISCLAIMER: These are regular tips to keep your marriage going, not professional advice. If you’re having major marital problems, please seek professional help.
27 Helpful Tips For A Happy Marriage
1. Become friends
One of the essential tips for a happy marriage is to become friends.
Friendship in marriage makes it easy to communicate with your partner.
I was friends with my husband before we started dating and got married.
So our friendship flowed naturally.
But don’t worry if that’s not how it happened for you.
You both can still build your friendship in your marriage.
2. Share chores
Another tip for a healthy marriage is sharing chores.
So that one person won’t be overwhelmed with a lot to do, which can lead to never-ending fights.
I do the cooking and other kitchen stuff in my home while my husband does the laundry and some other things.
3. Be on the same page
Seriously, you and your husband must be on the same page at all times.
It makes it hard for external influence to break into your marriage.
But when friends or family see that they can sway one of you, they’ve found a loophole to ruin your union.
So make sure you’re on the same page about:
- where you want to live
- the kind of house you buy
- do you both want children
- how many children do you want to have
- making decisions about your children, and
- other plans you may have for your future.
Being on the same page with my husband has helped us keep people out of our marriage.
We didn’t have the money to have a big wedding, so we went to the marriage registry and tied the knot.
Yes, we got some “that’s not how you’re supposed to do it.” But it was our decision, our marriage.
4. Be yourself
An excellent tip for a happy marriage for young couples is to keep being yourself.
Keep being the fun, silly person your partner dated and married.
You would have days when you’re not up for play or fun.
We all have those days.
But don’t change into someone your partner does not recognize because you’re now married.
Married couples play, talk, fight and make up, and spend time together.
Just be yourself, and you both will keep enjoying your marriage.
5. Respect each other
To have a happy marriage, you need to respect each other.
For me, this means talking to them respectfully, the way you talk to your friends.
You can argue but keep name-calling out of your mouth.
Don’t say words you can’t take back because you’re angry.
Your partner would never forget you called them stupid, useless, or even worse.
And things like this add up.
And they can ruin the chances of a long, happy marriage.
6. Create rituals
Creating rituals is another tip for a great marriage—simple things like kissing before you leave for work and hugs when they’re back from wherever.
We do that in my home.
I started it because of a song by Jaheim called “Just in case.”
I’m like, “kiss me before you go out.” But I still say, “make sure you come back.”
Anyway, build your rituals.
Find something you and your spouse can do together. Then do it.
7. Appreciate each other
You don’t always have to buy gifts or anything to show your spouse that you appreciate them.
Most of the time, they want to hear you say it.
Tell them you appreciate them for doing XYZ.
Or thank them just for being who they are to you.
And to your beautiful family.
Sometimes my husband sends texts to say he appreciates me.
And I do that too.
8. Touch more
Connecting more with your partner can help strengthen your marriage.
Kiss, hold hands and enjoy intimacy.
You can also do stuff like small kisses when you walk by each other in the hallway.
Or even while you eat together.
I’m sure you’d find more ways to connect physically in your marriage.
9. Give more
Happy marriages take a lot of effort.
You have to be willing to give your time.
Sometimes give gifts.
Or you can plan a date night and pay for dinner.
10. Understand that even happy couples argue
Don’t expect that you and your spouse won’t argue.
You’d argue and make up so many times in your marriage.
But talking it out, making up, and continuing to love each other strengthens your marriage.
11. Forgive easily
Yes, they hurt your feelings; try to forgive.
You don’t want to hold a grudge to the point where you don’t see eye to eye.
And both of you are living like the other person doesn’t exist.
If they have apologized for what happened, please forgive your spouse and move on.
But if the issue is bigger than you, seek marriage counseling.
12. Make it a habit to discuss before you make decisions
Maybe you got a job offer that requires relocation; consult it with your partner before taking it.
Both of you need to talk about how it would affect your lives.
And then plan toward that change.
13. Add in some PDA
Get comfortable with public displays of affection.
And also know when to get a room. lol
14. Communicate with your spouse
Something that’s lacking in a lot of marriages is communication.
Learn how to communicate with your partner.
Communication gives your partner a better sense of how you do things.
Mood swings are just that, mood swings. They don’t say anything.
If at all, they only show you’re mad. But not why.
So make sure to talk about the simple and the in-depth stuff.
15. Compliment your significant other
Everybody likes it when they get compliments.
So that’s something you should practice in your marriage.
Is your man looking dapper today?
It would make him feel good at the moment.
But it also tells him that you see him.
16. Spend time together
Find ways to spend time with each other.
Is it the silence after your kids leave for school?
Enjoy it together.
For us, that’s when we talk about many things and our future plans.
You can go on dates, watch movies together, spend your days off with each other, or take a walk in the park.
17. Enjoy time apart
It’s good to enjoy spending time with your partner.
But spending time on your own is great too.
You don’t want to depend too much on their presence. That’s unhealthy.
So learn to be okay when they’re not there.
And when they come back, you continue from where you stopped.
I hope this makes sense.
18. Focus on your partner’s strengths
Instead of looking for reasons to criticize your spouse, focus on their strengths.
Nitpicking and talking about their flaws can be very bad for your marriage.
19. Listening more can help you build a happy marriage
Let’s say your partner is talking about how you hurt their feelings.
Please don’t cut them off trying to win an argument.
Stay quiet, listen, and try to see things from their view.
Also, listening can help you control the situation instead of escalating it.
20. Admit and apologize when you’re wrong
Admitting we’re wrong and saying sorry is the hardest thing for some of us.
And that can mess things up for you.
For your marriage to be healthy, you should be able to apologize to your significant other.
It shows you’re an adult and can take responsibility for your actions.
21. Remember to say, “I love you.”
Did someone ever say “I love you,” and you said, me too? Haha!
I’m sure a lot of us said that.
That’s when we were shy teenagers dating.
But now, as an adult growing a happy marriage, remember to say, “I love you.”
You don’t say “me too” to your spouse.
And you don’t have to wait for them to say it before you do.
You can even text them while they’re out and say, “I love you, babe.”
22. Another tip for a happy marriage is to flirt with each other
One secret to a happy marriage is flirting with each other.
You can text your spouse like you just met them.
Tell them how lovely they look in that outfit.
Or say you want to take them out for dinner and get naughty after.
Talks like that can keep things alive in your marriage.
23. Learn to love the things they enjoy
I never liked or enjoyed watching soccer.
After I got married, I started watching English football with my husband.
And it is one of many things I enjoy doing with him.
We spend our weekends watching football and doing the fan thing.
And this made our friendship stronger.
Does your spouse enjoy sports, anime (we love anime), or whatever?
Ask them about it.
Try to understand the game or show and watch it with them.
24. Be their biggest fan
Life is hard enough already.
So when the world is beating your partner down, lift them up.
If your partner is working towards a job promotion, support them the best way.
Or maybe they want to try something they’ve never done before; tell them they can do it.
Even if they were scared, your one-person fanbase could be all the push they need.
25. To have a good marriage, overlook the small things
I learned from a good friend that some sheets may get bleach stains when her husband does laundry.
But she doesn’t complain because she appreciates that he does laundry.
That helped me not to sweat the small stuff because I used to complain about anything and everything.
“Why did you keep the plate here and not there?”
Just unnecessary stuff.
26. Shut out the noise
Once you and your partner decide to get married, all hell will break loose – most of the time.
Your family might not like him.
His family might like you, or maybe not.
But you know what?
It’s not that important.
What’s important is how you both deal with external influences.
Do you protect him from your family’s criticism?
Does he defend you when his family makes negative remarks about you?
That’s what’s important.
So please block out the noise and enjoy one day at a time.
27. Choose to make it work
You’ve heard this many times “marriage takes a lot of work.”
It is true.
So keeping your marriage and making it work is a decision you make every day.
After every serious fight or hard conversation, don’t think it’s over.
No, it’s not.
Please don’t give up; keep working on it.
In the end, everything will be okay.
Boom! 27 tips for a happy marriage
Every tip in this post may not work for your situation.
And that’s because every marriage is unique.
Work with your partner to build the best marriage for you both.
Now back to you.
Can you share your tips for a happy marriage?
Please leave them in the comments section.
Lastly, please share this post.
Thanks for reading.
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