Many people give their all in their relationships, yet their hearts still get broken, which hurts.
A good number of these people spend their time wallowing in self-pity.
And being angry at anyone and anything that reminds them of their past relationship.
Shutting their hearts off.
Or just going ahead to make the same mistake all over by being in yet another toxic relationship.
I have been cheated on.
And it hurt for a long time.
But I had to tell myself some hard truths.
In this post, I’ll give you 9 tips for healing from heartbreak after betrayal.
And help you find your confidence or get it back when being a ‘doormat’ did not work.
9 Tips for healing from heartbreak after betrayal
1. Give yourself time to heal
Succumbing to the temptation to jump right into another relationship with the first person who shows the slightest interest after you have just had your heart broken can be very disastrous for you and your’ rebound’.
Taking time to heal properly will prepare you for a better relationship.
Enjoy your own company, and get to know yourself again.
Allow yourself to feel all the emotions; hurt, loss, worry, and pain.
Purge out all the bad feelings, and then get up, dust your feet and put yourself back together.
If they walked away, they probably were not meant for you anyway.
2. Respect yourself to recover from a severe heartbreak
It is the only way anyone can respect you.
Remember not to sell yourself too cheap.
Many automatically become doormats in the name of wanting to be “wife/husband material.”
And end up getting worse than they bargained for.
Selling yourself cheap makes you come off as desperate.
While this is a ‘red flag’ for some people, others use it to their advantage.
Because they know you will always say ‘yes’, you will always give and forgive because you have no other choice.
And they will lever on that until your eyes open or until they run you into the ground in every way.
Some people never survive this afterward.
Abusive people are highly attracted to desperate partners they can control.
But many of us ‘nice’ people tend to see a lot of red flags, which we ignore and make excuses for.
So next time they do something you know is wrong, speak up and iron things out.
And while threats should never be part of a genuine relationship, it may be important to let him know the consequences of repeated unwanted actions.
If you find yourself in an abusive relationship, physical or otherwise, it will do you a lot of good to leave such a relationship.
Yes, it will hurt.
And yes, you will cry.
But the pros far outweigh the cons in your favor.
3. How to heal from heartbreak after giving it your all? Learn to love yourself
Only by loving yourself can you truly find love for another.
Love everything about you because you are unique in your own way.
Do not look down on yourself.
Stand in front of your mirror every morning and night if you must, and tell yourself you are better than what you think you are.
You are a reflection of your thoughts about yourself.
So how you see and carry yourself is how others see and treat you.
In loving yourself, do not forget to do things for yourself.
It is needed sometimes.
- Get yourself that gift,
- Take yourself out,
- fall in love with yourself,
- And make sure whatever you do, is because it makes you happy.
4. Please do not give it all; to recover from a heartbreak
Allow some room to be selfish.
Many people go into relationships with good intentions.
Probably with the hope of a better future of together forever.
They give all their attention, time, money, and practically everything they’ve got to keep the other person happy and in the relationship.
If you feel your partner might not be genuinely in the relationship, maybe ‘holding back’ might save you a lot of loss when that relationship finally ends.
A partner who wants to leave will leave even if you give them one of your kidneys.
Please read How To Know When A Guy Is Leading You On – 17 Signs.
5. How do I heal from heartbreak after you’ve given everything? Know your worth
Knowing you are worth a whole lot will put you well on your way to recovering from a failed relationship where you put all your effort in.
Yes, feeling worthless after that ‘special someone’ has walked out of your life is normal.
You feel like no one will ever truly love you.
But you need to realize that one person’s or a few people’s opinions of you don’t count.
There are a million and one people out there who will love you for you.
And the first of them is you!
Knowing that you are meant to be loved and appreciated will go a long way in your healing process and readiness to start another relationship when it is time.
Say it, believe it, look it; you are worth more than they think.
Anyone who mistreats you after you have done all to treat them well probably doesn’t deserve you anyway.
Please read 18 Clear Signs He Doesn’t Care About You (Ditch Him).
6. More tips for healing from heartbreak? Have something to do.
If you fall into the category of partners who have left all, including jobs and hobbies, to please or be with that special someone who eventually broke your heart, it is time to retrace your steps and get something doing.
An idle mind, they say, is the devil’s workshop.
Keeping your mind busy with positive things will keep the bad feelings at bay.
Nevertheless, it is normal to feel hurt or bad.
But dwelling on it for too long will negatively affect your mental and physical health.
Many people feel terrible after a breakup, especially when the erring partner was the major or sole financier.
So, if you do not have a job, for Heaven’s sake, get one!
But If you already have a job, maybe it’s time to go back to that thing you loved doing that made you happy or create one.
7. Give room for alone time.
This is one crucial part of recovering from heartbreak.
Find some time to spend with yourself.
It might not necessarily mean you are doing anything.
It is just a time to read or write quietly, meditate, reflect or take a long stroll to see the sights.
During this time, think of what you want your next relationship to look like.
If you can see it, then you can live it.
Take lessons from your last relationship.
It helps you know what you want and don’t want from the next one.
This will, in turn, help you sieve out the kind of partner you do not want.
8. Remembering you’re not a doormat is a great tip for recovering from heartbreak
Always remember that you are not a doormat.
You’re not meant to be walked all over.
You deserve to be treated right, regardless of color, social status, background, etc.
So, if you find yourself in a relationship where you are treated like you wouldn’t treat another human, talk less of someone you are in a relationship with, it’s probably time to dust your feet and move on.
9. Don’t hesitate to spend time with friends and family.
Another tip for healing from heartbreak is to spend time with your loved ones.
When you spend time with friends and family, you can recover faster from heartbreak.
Because friends can help distract you from negative thoughts.
Or even better, they can cry with you.
So let it all out to feel better and heal your broken heart.
Please read Your Boyfriend Cheated On You – 9 Things Not To Do.
Conclusion on How can I recover from a heartbreak?
I hope these nine tips on recovering from a heartbreak are educative and helpful.
And will put you on the right track to being in and enjoying a new relationship.
We’d love to hear how you recovered from that failed relationship.
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