Okay, you want to get married.
And you want everything to be perfect.
So what if everything isn’t perfect?
Does it mean you won’t get married anymore?
Or you’d keep putting it off until you’re sure it is how it should be?
But how is it supposed to be?
Is it the way everyone wants it?
Or is it what works for you and your partner?
I believe the way that works for you and your spouse is how it should be.
So don’t go stressing about unimportant things before getting married.
This post will discuss three things you don’t need before getting married.
A little backstory
My husband and I lived together for several months before we got married.
We both had jobs and could fend for ourselves.
Then I fell pregnant.
So pregnancy sped things up for us.
Then we decided to make it official.
But our traditional wedding ceremonies are pretty expensive.
Because the groom needs to buy certain things for the bride and her family.
When we looked at the list, it was way above our budget.
Remember, we had a baby on the way.
So what did we do?
We used our money to get a bigger apartment and bought baby stuff.
Then after our baby was born, we got married at the wedding registry.
We’re officially married.
Though our families think it’s not the way it’s supposed to be.
But it is our lives, not theirs.
I’m sharing my experience with you so you’d know I’ve been there.
Anyway, keep reading for things you don’t need before getting married.
3 things you don’t need before getting married
1. The big wedding ceremony you can’t afford
While having a fancy wedding ceremony with your family and friends is nice, it is not essential when you can’t afford it.
You don’t want to go into debt to entertain people you don’t like.
Is it not true?
We throw big wedding parties to show off to frenemies and relatives we’re competing with.
And some people will go into debt for it.
But does it make any sense?
After spending all that money, you and your spouse will start a life with debts to settle.
2. A big house
I’m not saying you shouldn’t have a place to live.
I’m saying that you don’t have to wait until you buy a house before getting married.
If you have the money for a down payment, fine.
But if you don’t have it yet, don’t put your marriage and life on hold for that.
You and your boo can start your life in an apartment and upgrade in the future.
3. Everybody’s opinion
Lastly, everybody’s input is what you don’t need before getting married.
You don’t need to take everybody’s unsolicited advice and opinions.
They will tell you what they think you’re supposed to do because that’s what they did.
Or maybe they have friends or relatives that did it like you, and it didn’t work.
People will always have their opinions.
Please don’t listen to them.
Like I always say, every relationship is different.
What works for Mrs. X may not work for you. And vice versa.
You get my drift.
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Things you need before getting married
Before you get married, these are the most important things you and your partner need to start a life as a married couple.
A place to live
Before planning your wedding, you must have a place to live when you’re married.
If you and your spouse have been living together, you already have a place to call home.
But if not, secure a place before saying I do.
I’ve seen couples spend money on a wedding and live with relatives or friends for months.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t accept help when it comes to that.
But it is best you and your spouse have a place, no matter how small.
A place where nobody will be in your business.
And you can enjoy your life as newlyweds.
You don’t want a situation where someone nitpicks everything you do.
If you sleep, they’d say you sleep too much.
Or you’re spending too long in the shower and whatnot.
Trust me; it’s not a good place to be.
Remember, “familiarity begets contempt.”
A source of income
Please make sure you have a source of income before you get married.
That’s what you need to put food on your table and keep a roof over your head.
You and your spouse need to be able to provide for your family.
Or for each other, at least, before kids come into the picture. If you want kids.
You know what I mean.
Love won’t pay the bills. But money does.
So make sure you’re both earning enough to take care of yourselves.
You don’t need to have the highest-paying job before getting married.
Just have a good source of income.
Another important thing you need before getting married is each other.
You and your spouse must have a bond that no one can break.
Once you have that, you can work together to better your lives.
So if you need more time to know each other, take it.
Consider living together for at least six months before you get married.
Please read this post about the benefits of living together before marriage.
Use that time to know all your deal-breakers and things you can ignore.
So that when you’re getting married, you are sure it is what you want.
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A marriage license
If you cannot afford the wedding you want, you can go to the courthouse and obtain a marriage license.
And if you can squeeze out some money, buy yourselves beautiful wedding rings.
Then take a few close friends to dinner.
It is cheaper than a ceremony.
And it is recognized by the state.
So what are we talking about?
You’re officially married. No one can deny that.
Then sometime in the future – when you have money to spare – have the wedding of your dreams.
So that’s my two cents on things you need and don’t need before getting married.
You don’t have to have it all together.
All you need is what works for you and your spouse.
No unnecessary activity that will leave you with debts to pay.
And start a new life without the basics.
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