When a man wants to spend his life with you, he will show you.
But it’s also possible you do not see the signs for some reason.
So in this post, we’ll take about cues your boyfriend wants to move the relationship forward.
Let’s dive in.
But first, a little back story.
Several months into our relationship, I saw signs that John wanted to take things forward.
I noticed the little things.
He didn’t have a car. So he would ride the bus with me to my nearest and safest bus stop.
That was his way of making sure I was safe.
While enjoying the bus rides and spending more time with him, I knew there was more to it.
Then one day, as I was boarding my last bus, he asked how I’d like to be his Mrs.
Not long after that, we moved in together.
And the rest is history.
Keep reading for clear signs a man wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
13 Signs he wants to spend his life with you
When a guy wants to marry you, you would know.
He won’t keep you guessing or playing mind tricks.
He would do these:
1. He makes plans with you in mind
When a man wants to spend his life with you, he will include you in his plans.
I remember when my husband was trying to get an apartment.
We searched for places together.
And he considered the distance from my job, amongst other things.
Also, when he talks about kids, he uses “we,” “us,” and other terms to let me know we’re in this together.
2. He wants to move in together
If a guy asks you to move in with him, it’s a sign he wants to live with you forever.
And before a guy decides to live with you, he knows he wants to take your relationship a step forward.
After my husband got his apartment, he asked me to move in with him.
3. He’d instead resolve issues, not run away
When a man wants to marry you, he will resolve issues than run away.
He would ensure you both are on good terms because he doesn’t want to lose you.
Also, he won’t be in a rush to end your relationship over an argument.
4. He introduces you to his family
If a guy introduces you to his family, it’s a sign he wants a future with you.
He wants you to meet the people he loves and respect.
Also, if he takes you to his family, he’s serious about settling down with you.
My boyfriend first told his family about me before I met them.
Then that Christmas, I met everyone.
If he takes you to meet his family, he’s not hiding you or playing silly games.
And he wants everyone to know you’re the one.
5. He always wants to be with you
Another sign that he wants to spend his life with you is that he misses you more than before.
He would always want you around.
And would change plans for a chance to spend more time with you alone.
6. You are the only thing he sees
A man that plans to spend his life with you sees only you.
He’s not interested in other women.
They don’t exist to him.
7. He says he wants to marry you
If a guy wants to spend his life with you, he will talk about it.
And he wouldn’t say, “Okay, we’ll get married if that’s what you want.”
Instead, he would initiate marriage talks and welcome them from you.
John and I talked about getting married several times before he proposed.
So I knew where I stood with him.
8. He wants to meet your family
A cunny guy would make excuses about meeting your family.
But a man that wants to move the relationship forward would ask to meet your family.
He’s not scared to know your folks and earn their respect.
So they know you’re in good hands.
9. He lets you know he has your back
When a guy wants to marry you, your problems become his.
He would make you feel comfortable talking about your dreams and fears.
And he would not hesitate to help you, as your problems are now “our problems.”
Also, if his friends or family try to bash you, he will always have your back.
10. He discusses long-term plans with you
If your boyfriend discusses long-term plans with you, it’s a sign he wants to settle down with you.
Even if he had planned stuff before you came along, he would include you in it.
You’d have conversations about your careers, where you plan to buy a house, etc.
11. He’s very comfortable with you
When your boyfriend gets more comfortable and vulnerable with you, it’s a sign he wants a future with you.
Also, he’s not bored spending time with you.
Once, John and I spent a whole day together in our tiny apartment.
Much later in the evening, we realized we hadn’t stepped out of the apartment all day.
He said that day was confirmation he would spend the rest of his life with me.
We were together, comfortable, and not bored of each other.
And it’s the same till tomorrow.
12. He holds you more
When a guy wants to marry you, he will touch or hold you more.
He makes you feel like you are his, and vice versa.
And there will be lots of hugging, kisses, hand-holding, and other forms of intimacy.
13. You become his top priority
A guy that wants to spend his life with you makes you his top priority.
You would see in his actions how important you are to him.
He wouldn’t care about the outside noise.
All he wants to do is make sure you are okay and safe.
In essence, he puts you first.
Signs he doesn’t want to spend his life with you.
Let’s talk briefly about signs a man doesn’t want to spend his life with you.
He would avoid marriage discussions.
When a guy doesn’t want to spend his life with you, he will get defensive when you mention marriage.
He would even laugh at the idea of marriage or marrying you.
He’s the kind of person that says marriage is boring.
So it’s not worth it.
That’s an unserious person; please leave him.
He would make you “Lord of the Rings.”
Yes, some guys would give you an engagement ring to pacify and get you off their backs.
And they would say it’s what you want.
He would put off wedding plans or anything to make it official.
That kind of person would keep you as a fiance for years and turn you into Lord of the Rings.
And you’d have no idea if there will ever be a wedding.
You don’t need that B.S.
You’d never meet his family.
When a guy doesn’t want to spend his life with you, you’d never meet his friends or family.
I had an ex like that.
Once, we rode a taxi to drop him off at his parent’s home, and then take me home.
We got to his parent’s house, and his mom was outside.
Dude got out of the car and greeted his mom.
But he didn’t introduce me.
We said bye, and I continued on my way home.
You can’t leave your stuff at his place.
If a guy makes a big deal because you left a few things at his apartment, he doesn’t want to marry you.
The thought of living with another person frightens him to his core.
So seeing your things feels like you’re moving in slowly.
What do you expect?
He has no plans of living together because he would never commit.
Family tradition excuse
A guy that doesn’t want to marry you would make excuses with his family.
He might say things like, “I’m the first son, so my tradition insists I marry someone of my ethnicity.”
Yeah, I’ve heard that excuse before.
He still got married to someone of different ethnicity.
Conclusion on signs he wants to spend his life with you
Boom! 13 signs a guy wants to spend his life with you.
- He would show you in his actions.
- And also tell you he would love to spend the rest of his life with you.
He would not play any hanky-panky games.
A guy serious about marrying you would not make excuses when the topic of marriage arises.
If you’re in a long-term relationship and seeing signs that he wants a future with you, great.
But if not, no problem. Let it go. It wasn’t meant to be.
Keep your heart and mind open, and the right person will come in.
All the best.
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