As a wife, you play an equal role in how happy or crazy your marriage stays.
So if you want a happy marriage, you must put in as much effort as your husband.
Likewise, it’s always a joint effort when a marriage goes sour.
But today, we’re not talking about failing marriages.
We’re talking about marriage tips for wives for a happy union.
19 tips for wives for a happy marriage
The truth is, wives don’t come into marriages with all the information.
We learn as we go.
And you must be willing to work with your husband to enjoy a happy home.
Most of the things I write in this post I learned after I got married.
And I’m still learning.
Also, your relationship differs from mine, so take what you need and leave the rest.
Without further ado, here are my tips for wives to have a happy marriage:
1. Put your man first all the time.
As a wife, the most important thing to do for a happy marriage is to put your husband first.
Your husband comes before the kids and every other person in your life.
I’m not saying you should neglect your kid’s needs. No.
But take care of them without neglecting your husband.
John and I spend lots of time together.
And we still make sure to take care of the kids.
So, when the kids prepare for school in the morning, it’s all about them.
Once they get on the school bus, it’s my husband and me.
And when the kids are back from school, it’s about them until 7 pm, their bedtime.
We make sure they’re in bed latest 8 pm so that we can spend time together.
Another way to prioritize your man is to discuss with him before making major decisions.
2. Never throw your husband out.
Another thing every wife must know for a happy marriage is never to throw her husband out, no matter what.
If you’re mad at your husband, why not talk to resolve issues instead of acting on your anger?
Besides, when you kick your man out, it is interpreted that your love for him is conditional.
And since that’s not the case, make sure you work to settle issues.
Also, it would help if you didn’t kick your hubby off the bed to the couch.
He’s not your kid that you send on timeout for misbehaving.
So please save the timeout for your kid.
3. Communicate with your man.
I know it would be great if our husbands could read our minds.
But unfortunately, nobody can read anyone’s mind.
So if you want a happy marriage, you must communicate with your man.
If something is bothering you, talk to him about it.
Also, if you need something, you should be able to tell your hubby.
Lastly, if you need your beau to help with chores, please ask him, and he will.
4. Show appreciation to your husband.
Another tip for wives for a happy marriage is to appreciate their partner.
Even if you share house chores and each partner does theirs, it’s still essential we thank each other.
When you thank your man, he wants to do more.
And asides from chores, I’m sure there are many other things your hubby does for you.
Like filling your gas and ensuring your car engine and tires are in tip-top shape.
Thank him for those things.
Sometimes, send your hubby a random text to say thank you.
He would ask you what he did.
Then you can mention what he did, etc.
Appreciation improves affection.
Please read 61 Tiny Things To Thank Your Husband For Daily.
5. Forgive each other.
To have a happy marriage, please learn to forgive each other.
I understand sometimes we get mad at our husbands for whatever.
But we must learn to forgive and move on if we want a happy marriage.
Yes, you’d remember for a while but forget and keep living with time.
6. Make time for intimacy.
Many wives on social media say they’re busy with the kids, so they don’t have time for intimacy with their husbands.
While you need to care for the kids, your husband has needs too.
Take care of the kids, but prioritize your man.
So please make time to cuddle and get busy between the sheets with him.
Intimacy relieves stress and strengthens your bond.
But if you don’t have time, please add it to your calendar and work towards it.
7. Wives, take care of yourself.
Because you’re a wife doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take care of yourself.
I’ve seen social media posts of wives/moms saying they haven’t had a shower in days because of XYZ.
Please don’t let that be you.
Don’t be so occupied with taking care of the family that you stop caring for yourself.
To make things work, especially with kids, you must create a routine and stick to it.
After school drop-offs, take a few breaths and plan your day.
If you’re a stay-at-home mom, do your workouts, have breakfast, take a shower, and relax.
Then do your afternoon routine when the kids are back from school.
Lunch, dinner, and bedtime.
Whether the kids are asleep or not, what’s important is that they’re in bed and out of your hair.
And you, mama, get to chill with your husband from 8 pm until bedtime.
8. Understand each other.
When you understand each other, your marriage will flourish.
Just as you have your way of doing things, your husband has his.
And when you understand how he operates, you give him room to be himself, and he should do the same for you.
Also, when you understand each other, you can work as a team always, and have fewer arguments.
9. Stop playing mind games.
As I said about communication, it’s important to say what’s on your mind.
For instance, don’t tell your hubby not to make a big deal of your birthday and get upset when he doesn’t.
If you want him to surprise you or if you’d like a little gift, say so.
It’s your husband we’re talking about.
You should be able to honestly communicate what you like without feeling odd.
10. Wives, have fun with your beau.
Another happy marriage tip for every wife is to play with her husband.
No matter how long you’ve been married, don’t ever stop playing.
The silly things you used to say or do to each other, keep doing them.
What I love about marriage is the more you know each other, the easier it is to be yourself.
So if you can’t be yourself with your partner, something’s wrong.
Relax and play a little; it’s great for your marriage.
Also, playing with your partner keeps things light, unlike when everyone is serious like it’s a bank job.
11. Touch every day.
To have a happy marriage, cultivate the habit of touching each other daily.
Hug, kiss, cuddle, and whatever form of closeness you prefer.
It keeps you connected and aware of each other.
12. Understand you’re two unique individuals.
Even if we say two become one in our marriage vows, we must understand that we’re individuals.
This means you are a whole human being, even as a wife, likewise your husband.
So make sure to live your life, do the things you love, and exist as a person.
And your husband should be able to do the same.
As much as we’re married, having friends to hang out with is essential.
Having a hobby, side hustle, or something you love doing is excellent.
My husband is a graduate student, and I’m a blogger.
When we’re together, we talk, play, do whatever.
And when he leaves for school, I get on my laptop and do my thing.
Though I miss him, I won’t sit all day texting him and begging him to come home so I can feel complete.
Please don’t do that.
It’s unhealthy for you and bad for your marriage.
13. Don’t compare your hubby to other people.
No matter what, please don’t compare your hubby to other people.
And also, don’t tolerate him doing it to you.
It’s cool if your friend’s husband cooks while she does other things.
And if your husband does house chores while you cook, great.
Every relationship is unique.
But you may ruin a good relationship when you start fighting your man because he doesn’t cook like Jane’s husband.
Once I was talking about how my hubby does the grocery shopping, and I do the cooking.
This lady jumped and was already badmouthing her husband to me that he doesn’t do grocery shopping.
I stopped her right there with, “every marriage is different.”
Please don’t compare your man with anyone.
14. Take an interest in your husband’s passions, hobbies, etc
You will become closer when you take an interest in your partner’s hobbies and other things he enjoys.
And that’s because you’d have more things to discuss, which means spending more time together.
My husband loves football, so we watch it together whenever our club plays.
And believe it or not, we talk about football.
Sometimes I also ask him questions about a player or when next our club is playing.
Likewise, he watches “This is Us” with me and other TV shows I love.
15. Plan your future together for a happy marriage.
Planning your future together is an excellent tip for a happy marriage.
Some people get married, and everything they do is still me or I.
That’s just a recipe for destroying your marriage.
When you’re married to someone, you must plan your future together.
Continue to involve each other in your decision-making.
When and where do you want to buy a house?
Do you plan to travel when the kids are in college?
Do you have enough savings for retirement? Etc.
It’s important to plan together because you’re a team.
16. Respect your husband.
Your husband is the head of the home.
To have a happy marriage, you must be willing to trust him to lead.
You have your strengths as the woman, and he has his as the man of the house.
Respecting your man does not mean lying on the floor and letting him walk all over you.
It means communicating without belittling the other person’s view.
Respecting your husband means no name-calling when you argue.
Another way to show your husband you respect him is to make him a priority.
Please read How To Show Your Man You Respect Him – 7 Simple Ways.
17. Be contented in your space.
Being content in your marriage means appreciating what you have and not thinking the grass is greener on the other side.
The grass might be fake.
Some say marriage is boring because you’re with the same person for years.
But they forget that the bond you’ve formed over the years makes your marriage more interesting than meeting new people every few months or years.
If you’re in a great marriage, stay and enjoy it.
Resist comparing your marriage to other people’s because the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
Please read Is Marriage Boring? 10 Sensible Reasons Why It Isn’t.
18. Never talk negatively about your hubby as a wife.
While we sometimes want to talk about our relationship issues with close friends, I mainly advise you don’t.
But if you have a close, non-judgmental friend, talk to them.
And when you do, don’t talk negatively about your husband to them.
Also, if they have your best interest at heart, they won’t encourage you to talk negatively about your man.
They might even help you see your husband’s perspective differently.
So if you must talk about your marital problems with a friend, always protect your husband.
Please read How To Keep People Out Of Your Relationship.
19. Be the shoulder your husband can lean on.
Lastly, a husband should be able to tell his wife his troubles without feeling like sh*t.
These days men are bashed for talking about their mental health.
Some women say they don’t want to hear their husbands talk about their problems.
They feel he’s a whiney little _______fill in the blanks.
Please don’t be like them.
Just as you lean on your husband for support when you’re down, he should be able to do the same and trust that you have his back.
Conclusion on marriage tips every wife must know
There you go! 19 tips every wife must know to have a happy marriage.
I hope you find them helpful.
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